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Kurt Willems: “Default laziness leads to an implicit and practical patriarchy.”

The first time I read Kurt Willems’s writing at Red Letter Christians, I followed the link to his blog only to see a brilliant post written not by Kurt, but by This-Kid-I-Used-To-Babysit. How’s that for random? So while I have to admit harboring a special fondness for him because he’s friends with Joey (who I […]

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Ed Cyzewski: “Neither of us worries about who’s ‘leading’ our marriage.”

I first became familiar with Ed Cyzewski through the fabulous Women in Ministry series he hosted throughout 2012, making space on his blog to share guest posts by women in various forms of ministry.  His commitment to proactively share the stories of women, and his insistence on making his blog a safe place for them, […]

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Sarah and Brian Bessey: “We make each other better at being ourselves, better at being like Jesus.”

Today’s Equally Yoked Post comes courtesy of one of my all-time favorite bloggers, Sarah Bessey. Her first book, Jesus Feminist: An Invitation to the Kingdom of God Waiting on the Other Side of our Church’s Gender Debates, will be published in 2013 by Howard Books (an imprint of Simon & Schuster). This gorgeous post took my breath away when I […]

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Aaron and Jenny Armstrong: “Use every gift that God has given you! Don’t hold back, don’t hesitate!”

A couple weeks ago, my husband Aaron surprised me with this beautiful post, which totally made me cry. I’ll let it speak for itself. 🙂 Coming to Christ I came to Christ at age 17. With my new commitment came a deep appreciation of God’s forgiveness, love, and the closeness of His Spirit, as well […]

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Asking for a Friday FAVOR! What Do You Think Belongs In a Book About Mutual Marriages?

So, I have resolved to do it. I am going to write a book proposal. *trumpets and fanfare* And I am going to do it on the topic of mutual marriage. Given the enthusiastic response to the Equally Yoked series, I think it’s a book that desperately needs to be written. I’ve been toying around […]

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Karen Beattie and David McCracken: “We Are Mediators of Grace to our Spouses”

Today’s Equally Yoked post is from Karen Beattie, who totally disrupted my schoolwork by sending me a copy of her recently-released book, Rock Bottom Blessings. Holy engrossing book, Batgirl! If Dallas Willard could write a compelling spiritual memoir about a spunky small town girl who struck out for the big city to follow her dream […]

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Jonathan Aigner and Kelsey Seifert: “I was raised as a Southern Baptist homeschooler deep in the heart of Texas.”

I first stumbled across Jonathan Aigner’s writing in an article he wrote for Mutuality. I was struck by his ability to express his points clearly and simply, without sacrificing the personal elements that make his story so compelling. I’m thrilled to have him blogging for Equally Yoked today, and hope you enjoy his post as […]

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Anne and Raul Garrido: “You could say we didn’t start in the best conditions.”

Today’s Equally Yoked post is from Anne Garrido. You’d think that a whip-smart Frenchwoman marrying a passionate Spaniard wouldn’t exactly be a recipe for a mutually-submissive marriage. But as Anne explains, you’d think wrong. You could say we didn’t start in the best conditions. I was raised in a traditional patriarchal family with a stay-at-home […]

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Gerald and Billie Ritter Ford: Grandiosity vs. Victimhood

Okay, so this isn’t exactly a story, but as soon as I read it I knew I had to include it in the Equally Yoked series. Gerald Ford was a pastor for over 40 years, and is a licensed counselor and marriage and family therapist at the Houston Center for Christian Counseling. This article gets […]

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Faking It: Why You Should Stop Treating Your Husband Like a Toddler, and ACTUALLY Respect Him.

There’s something I’ve noticed about many popular Christian marriage books and speakers. They don’t seem to have a very high opinion of men. Oh, they think that men should be “in charge.” But often, it is implied that women should just wink and nod knowingly at one another, that although everyone knows women are the […]

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Jenn and Dennis LeBow: “I couldn’t tell if he was mostly confused or annoyed by my newfound submissiveness.”

Today’s Equally Yoked post is from Jenn LeBow. I think it’s one many Christian couples can relate to.  For months, Dennis has appeared puzzled every time I bring up the issue of complementarianism vs. egalitarianism. He understands the tenets of both positions; his bemusement doesn’t arise from lack of knowledge. Instead, as I read passages […]

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Morgan and Cheryl Guyton: “We Have No Business Using Pagan Models of Top-Down Authority in Our Life Together as Christians.”

Today’s Equally Yoked post is from Morgan Guyton, a pastor at Burke United Methodist Church in Burke, Virginia. He shares a theological and sociological argument against hierarchy in Christian relationships. Few verses in the Bible have been more damaging historically to women in Western civilization than Ephesians 5:22 — “Wives, submit to your husbands as […]

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Kathy and John Harris: “There is Simply No Need for Hierarchy in Marriage if Each Partner Loves and Respects the Other.”

We’re kicking off the Equally Yoked series with Kathy Harris’s reflection on 25 years of shared life and ministry with her husband, John. There’s an amazing amount of wisdom here, and a heaping helping of Aussie common sense. Enjoy! My husband and I came from very different family backgrounds, but both entered our marriage with […]

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Equally Yoked: Stories of Mutual Marriages

What does it look like to live in a Christ-centered home committed to shared leadership and mutual submission, instead of gender hierarchies? I’m looking for guest posts on this topic, especially personal stories about how mutuality has played out (or not) in your relationships. Marriage is the focus, but I’d love some dating and engagement […]

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