Rachel Held Evans wrote a fabulous follow-up to my post about John Piper and gender roles, in which she calls the whole mindset exactly what it is: legalism. Some of the comments are incredibly thought-provoking too (as per usual). “Legalism is destructive, certainly. And it is often absurd. Framing gender stereotypes as God’s will turns […]
John Piper, Women in Combat, and How Gender Roles Fall Short of the Glory of Humankind
Co-Ed Combat and Cultural Cowardice, an article written by John Piper in 2007, has resurfaced in light of the U.S. military’s decision to let women serve in combat. I’m posting part of it here not because I want to pick a fight with Piper (please see my comments policy), or discuss women in combat (I […]
Anne and Raul Garrido: “You could say we didn’t start in the best conditions.”
Today’s Equally Yoked post is from Anne Garrido. You’d think that a whip-smart Frenchwoman marrying a passionate Spaniard wouldn’t exactly be a recipe for a mutually-submissive marriage. But as Anne explains, you’d think wrong. You could say we didn’t start in the best conditions. I was raised in a traditional patriarchal family with a stay-at-home […]
And the Winner Is…
And the winner of the Kindle is… *drumroll* Anonymous, because my subscription service only collects email addresses, not names. (Oops. Note to self: switch over to Mailchimp before my next giveaway. How anti-climactic!) I’ve emailed the winner for their contact info (not to mention their name), and will get the Kindle shipped out, stat! Update: […]
Last Chance to Enter the Kindle Giveaway!
Hi friends! Just a reminder, today is the last day to enter the Kindle giveaway. Sign up for email updates for your chance to win! I’ll draw the winner from the January subscribers first thing tomorrow. (Well, actually, I will be using a random number generator to choose the winner. But yanno…) Same deal for […]
50 Shades of Complementarian? Why We Should Lay Down the Labels, and Look at Our Common Purpose
Last week, a Twitter friend told me how shamed and berated many blogs made her feel for her complementarian theology. That made me so sad. I mean, I get it. Egalitarians are a minority in the evangelical world, and are often treated like theological scapegoats by their more traditional brothers and sisters. Women still lack […]
When Love Hurts: Domestic Abuse in Christian Homes
I was first introduced to Day of Discovery’s “When Love Hurts” series at an AVA (Advocates for Victims of Abuse) training last year. I was thrilled with the way they handled the subject, a conservative, biblically-grounded series that landed hard on the side of the oppressed. It’s the sort of video you could show at […]
Gerald and Billie Ritter Ford: Grandiosity vs. Victimhood
Okay, so this isn’t exactly a story, but as soon as I read it I knew I had to include it in the Equally Yoked series. Gerald Ford was a pastor for over 40 years, and is a licensed counselor and marriage and family therapist at the Houston Center for Christian Counseling. This article gets […]
Friday Favorites: Mental Health Edition
The Scandal of the Evangelical Heart This is a gut-wrenchingly honest piece. It’s hard to read because it claws at the carefully-armored defenses we’ve erected around our human hearts of flesh. But this–THIS–is why so many people walk away from the church. How could God (fill in the blank)? And how could Christians, or any […]
Faking It: Why You Should Stop Treating Your Husband Like a Toddler, and ACTUALLY Respect Him.
There’s something I’ve noticed about many popular Christian marriage books and speakers. They don’t seem to have a very high opinion of men. Oh, they think that men should be “in charge.” But often, it is implied that women should just wink and nod knowingly at one another, that although everyone knows women are the […]
Jenn and Dennis LeBow: “I couldn’t tell if he was mostly confused or annoyed by my newfound submissiveness.”
Today’s Equally Yoked post is from Jenn LeBow. I think it’s one many Christian couples can relate to. For months, Dennis has appeared puzzled every time I bring up the issue of complementarianism vs. egalitarianism. He understands the tenets of both positions; his bemusement doesn’t arise from lack of knowledge. Instead, as I read passages […]
Friday Favorites: Marriage, Evangelicalism, Dreaming Big and Crashing Hard
Is Marriage Really an Illustration of Christ and the Church? This could TOTALLY be an Equally Yoked post, only Rachel got it first. 😀 It’s a great, in-depth post about Christian marriage. I once believed that God intended my marriage to be a picture or illustration of Christ’s relationship with the church—a shining beacon of […]
I Miss Patriarchy. True Confessions from an Unlikely Source (Me)
Last week, I stumbled across the Facebook page of a magazine I sometimes read when I was in my twenties. It was the typical borderline-Quiverfull fare that has a large following among homeschoolers, promoting big families, homegrown organic cooking, and rigid gender roles; dispensing advice about clothing choices, natural health, homemaking, and child discipline. Scanning […]
Don’t Just Call Out Sin–Call Out Potential! Last Lessons From a Civil Rights Journalist
Eugene Patterson, a Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist who lent his pen to the Civil Rights movement, died on Saturday night. An article in the Atlanta Journal-Constitution honored him, saying “As editor of the Atlanta Constitution from 1960-1968, Gene Patterson’s image and words anchored the editorial page during the most tumultuous years of the civil rights movement […]
Morgan and Cheryl Guyton: “We Have No Business Using Pagan Models of Top-Down Authority in Our Life Together as Christians.”
Today’s Equally Yoked post is from Morgan Guyton, a pastor at Burke United Methodist Church in Burke, Virginia. He shares a theological and sociological argument against hierarchy in Christian relationships. Few verses in the Bible have been more damaging historically to women in Western civilization than Ephesians 5:22 — “Wives, submit to your husbands as […]
Author, speaker, and mommy of four, living on coffee and lots of grace. Pastor at Darrow Road Wesleyan Church. Student at North Park Theological Seminary. Passionate about justice, mercy, and the "one anothers."
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Awards
2015 Evangelical Press Association “Higher Goals Award,” Medium Article category
2012 Evangelical Press Association “Higher Goals Award,” Freelance Article category
2012 Evangelical Press Association “Higher Goals Award,” Critical Review category
2012 Associated Church Press “Best of the Christian Press,” Feature Article category
2011 Associated Church Press “Best of the Christian Press,” Feature Article category
- 50 Shades of Broken: Why Do Women Fantasize About Abuse? June 18, 2012
- John Piper, Women in Combat, and How Gender Roles Fall Short of the Glory of Humankind February 6, 2013
- How Much Money Does it Take to Be A Good Christian Woman? June 11, 2012
- Faking It: Why You Should Stop Treating Your Husband Like a Toddler, and ACTUALLY Respect Him. January 23, 2013
- Asking for a Friday FAVOR! What Do You Think Belongs In a Book About Mutual Marriages? February 22, 2013
- I am never sure what to say… April 13, 2021
- When you’re having a sleepless night of the soul October 3, 2017
- Who do you hate? And is it right for you to be angry? September 28, 2017
- Wives, Submission, and Slavery, Oh My! A Sermon on the Household Codes June 22, 2017
- When you’re not good enough, and it’s okay. May 27, 2017
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