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Stillness in the Storm

My friend Pam and I spoke at a women’s conference in Moose Lake, MN recently, about the “waves of adversity” we all face in our lives. I’ll be posting follow-ups for the next couple weeks, so the women who were there (and anyone who wasn’t!) can continue to chew on and discuss the topic. This […]

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Maybe we don’t need to “fight violence.” Maybe we need to help young men.

The Boston Marathon bombing. The Sandy Hook shooting. The “witch hunts” in Papua New Guinea. Gang rape in India, piracy in Somalia, rampant violence worldwide. These tragedies are not as disparate as they seem. The crimes are different, but the perpetrators are the same–angry young men making a desperate grab for power and identity. I […]

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Dorothy and Christopher Greco: Defying Gender Boundaries “The wounds created by twenty-some years of disapproval still oozed when we walked down the aisle.”

I was lying on the cold basement floor eight months pregnant, repairing the heater when I had an epiphany—ours was not a typical marriage. My husband felt no compulsion to rescue me or take over. He actually finds my willingness to embark on such repairs charming. He’s also relieved because he hates fixing things. His […]

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Walking on Rough Waters

My friend Pam and I spoke at a women’s conference in Moose Lake, MN last weekend, about the “waves of adversity” we all face in our lives. I’ll be posting follow-ups for the next couple weeks, so the women who were there (and anyone who wasn’t!) can continue to chew on and discuss the topic. […]

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Who is in Your Community? The Importance of Seeking Mentors.

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” I don’t remember where I heard that nugget of pop psychology, and I don’t fully subscribe to it, but the words stuck with me. I was heading into a season of change and transition: the youngest of my four children had […]

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Ryan and Sally Stauffer: “Unanimity, not authority, should be the principle upon which we base our marriage constitution.”

Today’s Equally Yoked post is from Ryan Stauffer. Enjoy! I pulled the thermometer out of Sally’s mouth and looked at it. 103.1°. “That’s it. We’re going to Medstat,” I said. It wasn’t a question or a suggestion; it was an order. I knew she’d have given the same order if our roles were reversed, because […]

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Valerie and Kyle White: “If there is only one way to serve God in our relationships, then why did God create people so differently?”

I’ve had a lot of fun getting to know Valerie online. I mean, as if it wasn’t weird enough that she is the musical the mom of four boys, going back to school for ministry in her thirties (WHOA!), she actually grew up less than an hour from where I live! So we really could […]

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Why Is There A Naked Woman On My Son’s Shampoo Bottle?

The other day, through circumstances out of my control, I was forced to shower in the “boys’ bathroom.” 0_0 While I was in there, I noticed that there was a picture of a naked woman on my teenage son’s body wash. See her? Right next to the 33%? I mean, she might not be naked. […]

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Should Christian Women Color Their Hair? On Dissatisfaction, Cultural Conformity, and Battling the Inner Barbie

A couple weeks ago, I had about a foot of hair cut off my head. When you’re the busy mother of four, and have the sort of Hermione-meets-Rapunzel hair that you can almost watch grow, it’s easier to just twist the whole mass up on your head, secure it with industrial-strength hair accessories, and forget […]

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Kurt Willems: “Default laziness leads to an implicit and practical patriarchy.”

The first time I read Kurt Willems’s writing at Red Letter Christians, I followed the link to his blog only to see a brilliant post written not by Kurt, but by This-Kid-I-Used-To-Babysit. How’s that for random? So while I have to admit harboring a special fondness for him because he’s friends with Joey (who I […]

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Some Exciting News for Women Writers!

Are you familiar with the Redbud Writer’s Guild, an amazing group of female communicators committed to “fearlessly expanding the feminine voice in our churches, communities and culture”? Redbud and the women I met through it, in our online groups, at retreats, and at meet-ups around the country, has been one of the great joys of […]

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How Do You Preach the Gospel and Breastfeed? Adventures of a Female Evangelist

I’m thrilled to be featuring a guest post from Jessica Fick, who I met last week on Twitter and promptly fell in love with. (The fact that she happened to be in Wisconsin right then for an evangelistic crusade at UW-River Falls didn’t hurt, either–the photos in this post are from that.) Enjoy!  I pulled […]

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What Happened in Steubenville? “A culture of arrogance created a group mindset of debauchery and disrespect.”

It’s not often that I brag up anything I read on Yahoo, but this article by Dan Wetzel about what happened in Steubenville was excellent. Here are a couple highlights. “Rape, experts say, is a crime of power and control more than sex. Underlying all of that is arrogance, and in Steubenville it was taken […]

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The Importance of Careful Communication: A Confession and a Commitment

I have a confession to make. I haven’t been communicating very carefully for the last couple weeks. And whether or not anyone but me has noticed that (I think some people have), I feel like I need to come clean, apologize, and change. Here’s the thing. Careful communication is very, very important to me. Avoid […]

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Friday Favorites: Women In Ministry Edition

Why I can no longer defend women in ministry by Steve Holmes I have defended the ministry of women in the church in public for a while now, including on this blog. I don’t think I can do it any longer. Not because of any lack of calling or gifting in their ministry, but because […]

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